Sex apparently has a sexual preference and it definitely isn’t women of colour, or maybe it is but we would never know since the media is always portraying women of colour not enjoying sex and if they are, they’re being “immoral” about it. In most cultures a woman’s sexuality and sex life is linked to her purity.
Women of colour are always portrayed not enjoying, resorting to prostitution for money, being victims of rape and sexual abuse or just being a spiritual, powerful woman with no interest for sex. It’s almost like sex is a distraction for women of colour who want to be successful. To state the obvious: The media just want to show our pain and epitomize our strength but they will never really understand that our liberty is multifaceted and it’s more than just overcoming white supremacy and colonialism, its also overcoming our culture and the misogyny and patriarchy that we women and girls of colour face and sex is just one of the many sides. Here are some examples of the way media portrays women of colour enjoying sex.
In this movie, this women is not sexually satisfied her husband and so she finds alternative methods for her satisfaction, at first using masturbation and later on cheating on her husband and having sex with other men. The movies reasons her sexual drive as an addiction to sex because of the sexual assault that she experienced in her childhood.
The next movie causes even more controversy because it speaks to feminism in an Indian and Islamic context and the roles that guide the sexual pleasure of females. This movie caused a lot of controversy and there were many different opinions centered around it. People did not think this movie could be called a “feminist film” because of it’s sexual content and the unhappy ending of the movie. I beg to differ, I find it exhausting how people are always separating women from sex, and no-one ever speaking about the sexual pleasure of women of colour. I think the unhappy ending is realistic in an Indian context.
Here a few reactions to the movie:
Indian sexuality is not discussed yet one of the most famous sanskrits written is the Kama Sutra that acknowledges sexual desire, because of western perception people do not understand that the text speaks to more than just creative sex positions but also about love and the root of desire; what sustains it and whether it is good or bad.
There is one movie that stood out when speaking about women of colour and their ownership of their sexual desires and is the korean movie: The Handmaiden. It stood out because of its unpredictable nature and depicted the struggles of korean women during those times in a true manner.
To be absolutely honest it is no surprise that the sexuality of white women is more accepted, unsurprising and are shown in ways that truly depict desire because women can also just have sex for the desire of it. When the media shows the sexuality of women of colour it is shown in a much more exotic manner. We are exotic fruits hanging on the tree, that is the only way the media can describe the sexual nature of women of colour unless you speak about our fatherless children, our prostitutes, our rape cases and of course how strong we are because we don’t have sex.